Monday, December 29, 2014

Baby Mathews

In case you've been under a rock lately or haven't seen any of our parents around town, WE'RE HAVING A BABY!!!! We had planned to wait until May buuuuuuuuuuut if you want to hear God laugh, tell him your plans, right?


How we found out...


I called in to work on November 11th because I had spent the whole night calling dinosaurs in the toilet.... I NEVER call in to work & I NEVER throw up. I blamed it on the pancakes I had for breakfast at work the day before. Of course my phone was continuously going off with texts from the girls at work asking if I was pregnant. Heck no, I'm not pregnant!!!! We're waiting until May, remember? There were already 3 girls at work who were pregnant...Kelsey, Bridget & Holland (read Holland's story HERE) & there were bets on who would be next. NEWSFLASH: DO NOT DRINK THE WATER IN THE MEDICAL INTENSIVE CARE UNIT! Even the doctors joke about that newsflash. Anyways, I got a little nervous & took a pregnancy test....negative. Holland quickly reminded me that the first one she took was negative, too, and it just might be too soon to detect. Hunter's sister, Amanda, also said the same thing. I decided that I'd take one Thanksgiving morning before work....that would be something to be thankful for, right? I got up Thursday morning, November 27th & turned the shower water on. While I was waiting for the water to get warm, I took the test. The first line turned pink & I thought to myself, 'I don't think that line was that close to the middle of the little window last time.' Then the second line very clearly turned pink. I said, "Oh my God. HUNTER!!!!! Come here!!!!!!!!" Hunter, being the grumpy pants that he is in the mornings, said "Ugh! Tara! What?????" He later told me he thought I was waking him up because my hair had clogged the shower drain....again. I was standing by the sink, crying....excited, shocked, nervous, but mostly scared to absolute death. He stomped in & I said, "I'm pregnant..." he looked like he had seen a ghost & said "Oh God...yay, pretty!!!...congratulations!" CONGRATULATIONS??? As if it's not his child, too?? He saw me crying & figured he better say something positive & I guess 'congratulations' was the first thing that came to mind!! That makes me laugh so hard now!! Obviously I didn't have time to wash my hair at this point & I kept catching myself staring into space while I was trying to put my makeup on. Finding out before work was not a good idea. I couldn't focus on ANYTHING that day...and that's scary in my line of work!!

The cat is out of the bag...


Hunter wanted me to wait until Christmas to tell our parents....a whole month....YEAH RIGHT. Thanksgiving night, we drove to Maplesville & told my Mama & Randy. We told Daddy & Melanie on Saturday and we told Hunter's parents on Sunday. We told Mama by writing 'Baby Mathews August 2015' on a piece of paper in a bowl...she thought we were drawing names for Christmas. She let out a scary scream when she read it! We wrapped up tiny shoes & gave them to Daddy. For Hunter's parents, we wrapped up a tiny baseball glove. Hunter's daddy always coached Hunter in little league ball. They were all tickled to death! Daddy called me 4 times that next Monday to talk about baby names! Our doctor appointment wasn't until December 16th & we didn't want to tell everyone until we got an OK from Dr. Lawhon so we only told close friends & family.

Days go by...


On December 3rd, we had a little scare so I went back to the doctor & they figured out that my progesterone levels were really low. Thirteen, to be exact. They put me on oral progesterone 200mg twice a day & I'll continue taking that until I'm 12 weeks. On the 11th, I went back for my progesterone redraw levels & everything was perfect! On December 16th, we went to our first OB appointment. Hunter looked extremely uncomfortable  a bit scared sitting in the waiting room & probably couldn't have gotten out of there soon enough! Before we saw Dr. Lawhon, they did an ultrasound & we got to see our sweet baby for the first time! Our Due date is August 2, 2015! We also introduced Baby Mathews to social media! 


Today, December 29th, we got to see our baby for the second time AND we got to hear his/her tiny little heart beating! A whopping 172 beats per minute! He/she has grown so much in 2 short weeks!


Baby Mathews got his/her first present from Hunter's parents for Christmas. A gorgeous white knitted blanket & a little lamb. My Mama got him/her a bible for Christmas. Piper, Saige's best dog friend, got him/her a box of goodies!!


Everything is good! I haven't had much morning sickness, thankfully. However, I could sleep all day, every day. On more than one occasion, I have come home from work & gone to bed without even eating dinner. I STAY tired! If I get still, I'm down for the count. As a matter of fact, it's a pure miracle that it's 9:16 & I'm still awake! I crave orange juice....like a gallon or two a week! I can't get enough of fruit, especially tangerines! Lately I've been wanting McDonald's fries but I'm trying to get rid of that craving. I get up at least once during the night to use the bathroom & that is annoying! Hunter & I both have been reading, not that any book could prepare us for the roller coaster we are about to jump on! 


My book

Hunter's book

We go back to the doctor January 19th. By then I'll be 12 weeks! Time is already flying by! I've been meaning to do the chalkboard timeline week by week so maybe by 12 weeks, I'll have a board & chalk & can start! We will see you in 3 weeks! Happy New Year! 








Thursday, May 15, 2014

Holland's Story

I was pushed back and about to fall, but The Lord helped me. The Lord is my strength and my defense; He has become my salvation.                                                                     Psalm 118:13-14



   I met Holland in January of 2012 while doing my preceptorship in MICU at Baptist South. Such a gorgeous girl with the prettiest eyelashes, a very outgoing personality & super bright lipstick! I started working in MICU in May of 2012 & we quickly became friends. We had a lot in common...we were about the same age, we were both getting married that year and we were both 'girly,' often talking about our newest hairdo, nail polish or makeup. Jean, our unit clerk, calls us the 'beauty queens in the unit,' and she doesn't mean that in a nice way. I think she thinks we missed our casting call on the movie 'Mean Girls.' Anyways, Holland & I chat on our off days & we love an occasional margarita after a crazy 12 hour shift at work! She is back in school part time to become a Nurse Practitioner & is doing amazing with that! With all that being said, the past 11 days have taught me so much about faith, preserverance, hope, patience, humility, friendship & God's plans.

   Two weekends ago, Holland & her husband, Nic, went to Atlanta to a Braves game and Hunter & I were in Pine Hill for Collins' 2nd birthday party. Needless to say, Holland & I didn't talk all weekend. On Monday, May 5th, I was at work & it was crazy busy, as usual. When I got around to checking my phone, I saw that I had 2 texts from Haley, Holland's sister. The first one said, 'Hey Tara it's Haley. Have you talked to Holland recently??' And the second text 2 minutes later said, 'Call me when you can.' I automatically knew something wasn't right so I called Haley from our break room. She told me that Holland had been having headaches so she went to the ER & they did an MRI...I knew what was coming...and that they found a mass on her brain. She was being transferred to UAB. My heart hit the floor & I wanted to vomit. All I could say was 'No.......' Haley was obviously upset & said 'Tara, what could it be???' I work in the ICU...of course I thought the worst. I immediately started praying when I hung up the phone. It felt like I had been gut punched & I can't even imagine how Holland & her family felt. From that very morning, Haley said, 'We serve a God that made the blind see. This is not too big for Him!' What strength that took....her baby sister had a mass on her brain & was facing the unknown, yet she put aside the questions of 'why?' and surrendered it straight to God from the very beginning. I want to be a woman of that kind of conviction! The next 24 hours were filled with CT scans to determine what the mass was....a tumor, vessel abnormality, infection/abscess or an abnormal normality (whatever that could be). My heart ached for Holland. Why do bad things happen to good people? I humbly prayed & prayed & prayed, just like everybody else that knows Holland did. Andrea (another girl we work with) & I went to UAB to visit Holland the next day. She seemed to be in good spirits but still had a pounding headache. We laughed & talked about everything, trying to avoid talking about the elephant in the room. Let me say this- Holland has an amazing THE BEST support group. Her room was filled with both her family & Nic's family and tons of snacks, flowers & cards. She is so loved! That night before we left, Dr. Okor, the neurosurgeon that we all grew to LOVE, came in & said that they narrowed it down to a tumor or an infection/abscess. There were talks of a biopsy but he just didn't feel comfortable doing that since he wasn't 100% sure that it was a tumor. As hard as it was being on the 'other side' in a hospital, I respected Dr. Okor for not jumping the gun when he really didn't know what he was dealing with. On Wednesday, they decided to let Holland go home with steroids, pain medicine & nausea medicine & planned to see her again in 3 weeks for a follow up MRI. 3 weeks....that would have been a LONG 3 weeks! The next day, Holland texted me & said Dr. Okor moved her follow up appointment up 2 weeks. Great, right?? That's 2 weeks of gut-wrenching nervousness that we won't have to endure! Wrong...I was a nervous wreck that he knew something that we didn't & 3 weeks was too long to wait. So...for the next few days, I turned into my mother...calling/texting Holland at all hours to check on her. On Friday she sent me a text that pretty much broke my heart....she said she felt like she was dying & she had no energy to do anything- she felt invalid. People joke all the time that they 'feel like death' or that they are 'dying' after too much to drink the night before, but this was a way different situation. What if she did have a malignant brain tumor & she was dying? I never said that to her but I was so, so afraid. That weekend, Hunter & I went to Atlanta to a Braves game with Ashlee & Matthew. We had a good time & sent Holland funny snapchats all weekend to cheer her up, per her request. Sunday morning when we woke up, I had a text from Haley that said Holland was throwing up again & really sick. They were rushing her back to UAB & there was more swelling on her brain. A million things were running through my head...why Holland? She doesn't deserve this. Is it a rapid growing tumor? How in the world did this  happen so fast? Once again, Haley, being the amazing person that she is, said, 'They are going to fix this with The Lord's help. What a testimony she will have for His kingdom!' Talk about faith, perseverance, humility & hope! That girl has it! Her heart rate started to drop & she was maxed out on pain meds but still in agonizing pain so they moved her to the neuro ICU. Her MRI that afternoon showed increased swelling, increased size in the mass, her front 2 ventricles had collapsed & she had a midline shift...WHAT?? If you work in the medical field, your jaw probably just dropped. If you don't know what that is, then let me tell you that it is BAD. It was an absolute blessing that she got to the hospital when she did because we could have easily lost her that day. That night, they did emergency surgery. When they got in, they found a brain abscess behind her right eye & drained 60cc of fluid. Holland said that when she got into the operating room, she heard Dr. Okor tell the nurses to only shave a tiny area of her head. THAT, along with the fact that he came into the hospital on his day off to do her surgery because he said that she was 'his patient,' is another reason why we loved him...he didn't make Holland feel like she was just another patient & he knew losing her hair was a big deal to her & it meant a lot to her that he cared about that. She spent that night in the ICU & I was up there the very next morning. When I walked in, I hugged her, she gave me a kiss on the cheek & held my hand....a 2 year friendship that felt like it had lasted a lifetime. She talked & laughed & told stories of the shenanigans that took place while she was coming off of the anesthesia after the surgery...WOAH...her poor nurses! It was SO good to hear her laugh & her be headache- free! The next day she moved to the step-down unit & she got to come home on Wednesday with IV antibiotics.

   What an AMAZING God we serve!! Haley was right...this wasn't too big for Him. After surgery, Dr. Okor told Holland that it's not about WHEN you finish the race, it's just about finishing it. This wasn't in Holland's plan, it wasn't in her family's plan...it was God's plan & he has already used it for His kingdom. Lives have been rededicated to Christ through Holland's story & I know numerous other lives have been touched. So many people have grown closer to Him through this, including myself.  Please continue to pray for Holland as she has big decisions to make about work & school and continue to pray for her family who hasn't left her side! Today I'm thankful for my sweet friend, her health & what she means to me!

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, according to his purpose.                                                                                                            Romans 8:28






Thursday, February 13, 2014

Meet Micah!!!

     On August 13, 2013, 6 months ago today, my second nephew was born. He was born at 27 weeks & weighed 2 lbs 8 oz. While we were happy he seemed as healthy as a 2 lb. 8 oz baby could be & had 10 fingers & 10 toes, we couldn't help but face reality.  The reality was that he wasn't born into an ideal situation & didn't have a mom & dad that could give him the life he deserved. My mom & step-dad, Randy, were too old to 'start over' & raise a child & Micah's other grandparents already had enough on their plate since they were raising Micah's older twin siblings, Destiny & Des, who will be 6 years old this month. DHR was on the case from day one & we all knew he would ultimately end up in a foster home. Although none of us had the means to take him & raise him, we knew we wanted a better life for him. We wanted him to have a Mama & Daddy that would love him, take him to church, teach him right from wrong and even give him his very own nursery in a nice, warm house. I knew that a lot of foster children didn't have fairy tale endings & as much as I wanted Micah's story to be the exception, I was afraid it wouldn't be.
     Since Micah was in the NICU at UAB, we had to be on a list to see him. If you weren't on the list, you didn't get in the unit. Randy's sister, Betty Carol, was the only person that Micah's biological mom would put on the list. Betty Carol went to UAB on her lunch break nearly every day for 2 months & updated us. Against all odds, he seemed to be trucking right along! On September 3, 2013, I was at work & Mama called me. She told me that she had seen on Facebook that Bill & Alyssa Short were doing all kinds of fund raisers to adopt a child. Bill's daddy & Randy are first cousins & we thought that adopting a blood related child might be a tiny bit easier than someone that wasn't related to Micah at all. It was a VERY long shot but Mama went for it. She messaged Bill & explained the situation... 'I know this is completely out of the ordinary but I want to give you some information & you can do with it what you will...our wish & prayer for him is for some family to adopt him & give him a good home...I know you & your wife are in the process of adopting a baby already but I wanted to let you know about this baby, too....We pray that he can be placed into a good, loving, Christian home. Take care!' Woah! Can you imagine getting a random message like that? Apparently Bill didn't mind a bit because 20 minutes later, he replied with, 'That would be a blessing! Please call me.' Before long, Bill & Alyssa were involved in every aspect in Micah's life. DHR got custody of him & Bill & Alyssa were placed on the visiting list in the NICU to visit. Bill updated us daily with Micah's progress. Mama & Randy got to visit him in the NICU, too. At first, I don't think Randy wanted to even see Micah & I think it was because he felt guilty that he couldn't take him home & raise him. After he saw that Bill & Alyssa were serious about trying to adopt him & he knew that Micah would have awesome parents that would take care if him, he finally held him. Eventually Bill & Alyssa got temporary custody!
     On November 9, 2013, almost 3 months old, Micah was discharged & went home with Bill & Alyssa! Not long after he was home, I FINALLY got my hands on him! Such a sweet, tiny little thing! Earlier this month, Bill & Alyssa got full custody of him & now they can start the process of legally adopting him. It was an absolute miracle that Micah was a healthy baby & it was all in God's timing that Bill & Alyssa finally have the child that they prayed so long & hard for! Since they have full custody, we can now post pictures of him, hence the reason for this blog post!!! Meet Micah!!!